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Tips for Talking To Your Parents About Estate Planning in the Age of COVID-19

Posted by Judy Nakashima Shoji | Mar 12, 2021 | 0 Comments

The only guarantee we have in life is that we’re all going to die someday. If we’re lucky enough, we’ll do this when we’re old, slipping peacefully away in our sleep. But, inevitably, it will happen to each of us regardless of age or health. Unfortunately, too many people pass away without addressing their estate planning and die without leaving a will. Dying without a will, referred to as intestate, is just one of the issues that can come from not addressing your estate planning while you’re alive.

23 Movies That Will Change Your Attitude About Divorce

Posted by Elise Buie | Mar 09, 2021 | 0 Comments

If you're in the middle of a divorce or about to start on one, you're well aware of the roller coaster ride you signed on for, or your spouse signed you on for, and now you're along for the ride whether you wanted to be on it or not. After long, busy days, I often plopped myself down on the couch, not yet ready for bed but exhausted. I needed to unwind, and I found a great way to do that was to grab a glass of wine and a bowl of popcorn and watch movies.

What Happens if a Named Beneficiary in My Will Dies Before Me?

Posted by Judy Nakashima Shoji | Mar 05, 2021 | 0 Comments

Once you have established your estate plan, it is important to ensure it remains sound by revisiting it at regular intervals or at key life events. One important reason is that if you fail to account for the death of someone named as a beneficiary in your will, upon your death, your estate may face significant problems as a result. Here is what can happen.

Are Handwritten Wills Valid?

Posted by Judy Nakashima Shoji | Feb 26, 2021 | 0 Comments

A will can be handwritten (known as a "holographic will") so long as it meets the requirements outlined by the state in which the creator resides. In Washington, any person who is of sound mind and 18 or older may make a last will and testament.

Imposter Syndrome: How It’s Holding You Back With Your Divorce, and How You Can Overcome It

Posted by Elise Buie | Feb 23, 2021 | 0 Comments

According to researchers, imposter syndrome or imposter phenomenon (IP) "is a motivational disposition in which persons who have achieved some level of success feel like fakes or imposters." It's a behavior that describes those who, despite achieving high levels of success on standardized tests, earning advanced degrees, and receiving professional recognition for their accomplishments from colleagues or organizations, still fail to experience a sense of success internally. And I see it affect people during the divorce process all the time.

New To Washington? Remember To Review Your Estate Plan

Posted by Judy Nakashima Shoji | Feb 19, 2021 | 0 Comments

Are you one of the millions of individuals who moved to Washington from another state? Has the pandemic allowed you to work remotely from any location? Whether you've already made a move to Washington or are considering an upcoming relocation, you likely created a checklist that includes updating your address, obtaining a new driver's license, and possibly purchasing an umbrella. Unfortunately, many people fail to add another line item to the checklist: ensuring they update their estate-planning documents.

7 Statements To Diffuse an Angry Ex

Posted by Elise Buie | Feb 16, 2021 | 0 Comments

You'd be surprised at how what you say and how you say it can make or break a discussion. As a family and divorce lawyer, writer, communicator, and a once-divorced (I've since remarried) co-parenting mom myself, I know how the slightest alteration in my speech can produce a different outcome in a conversation. Those "alternative endings," in turn, can do a lot of damage by derailing my day, my week, and, most significantly, negatively impact my children's lives in a very profound and direct manner. That's why I'm careful about how I speak to my ex. And he's not even a bad guy.

Did the Pandemic Keep You From Getting a Divorce? A New Study Says it Did

Posted by Elise Buie | Feb 11, 2021 | 0 Comments

Now more than ever, especially under the stress of the ongoing pandemic, effective co-parenting strategies may be needed more than ever before. A recent study suggests that divorces have decreased over the past year, contrary to what past predictions suggested. The implication is there are many households currently in crisis, with dissatisfied couples on the verge of divorce, who will need guidance in the coming months as the vaccination effort takes effect and the world emerges from the COVID crisis.

What Is Digital Estate Planning?

Posted by Judy Nakashima Shoji | Feb 09, 2021 | 0 Comments

When it comes to end-of-life planning and their estate, most people don’t even think about their digital footprint. In its simplest form, a “digital asset” is a non-physical asset that exists online in electronic format. Most clients preserve digital assets either for sentimental or financial value.

A Discussion About Probate, Part III: What Happens When A Love One Dies?

Posted by Judy Nakashima Shoji | Feb 04, 2021 | 0 Comments

This article is the third part of a three-part series on probate. If someone dies owing a debt, does the debt go away when they die? No. Generally, the deceased person’s estate is responsible for paying any unpaid debts. The estate’s finances are handled by the personal representative, executor, or administrator. That person pays any debts from the money in the estate, not from their own money.

You Have Kids. Should You Date Before Finalizing Your Divorce?

Posted by Elise Buie | Feb 02, 2021 | 0 Comments

You're getting divorced, and it's the first time you've been single in years. You're thinking about starting to date but are wondering whether this is a good idea or not. You anticipate your divorce taking a while, and worry about putting your dating life on hold for months, even years. So how do you decide if now's the right time to dip your toe in the dating pool?

This Valentine’s Day, Give the One You Love a Prenup. They Are More Romantic Than You Think.

Posted by Elise Buie | Jan 26, 2021 | 0 Comments

Valentine's Day is coming up, and you may already be thinking about popping the question, or perhaps you are engaged and wondering what to give your soon-be-be-spouse. Why not consider a prenuptial agreement or "prenup"? Maybe it is not as idyllic as picking out wedding décor, but a prenup is one of the best marriage-related decisions you will ever have the opportunity to make.

Why Are Young People More Likely To Sign a Prenup Than Their Parents?

Posted by Elise Buie | Jan 20, 2021 | 0 Comments

Regardless of age, a prenuptial agreement can protect your interests before marriage. Getting a prenup has nothing to do with your outlook on marriage or how committed you are to your spouse. On the contrary, getting a prenup speaks to how much you value a marriage where both partners feel comfortable knowing they're protected — in love and under the law.

How To Avoid Family Disputes Over Your Property

Posted by Judy Nakashima Shoji | Jan 15, 2021 | 0 Comments

Far too many families end up fighting, or at least experiencing tension, over a family inheritance, but it does not have to be that way. Having counseled families for years, we offer the following advice to help your family avoid fighting over your property — while you are here and after you die.

3 Questions To Ask Yourself Before Staying in a Bad Marriage for the Kids

Posted by Elise Buie | Jan 13, 2021 | 0 Comments

You're at lunch with your friends. Or on the phone with your mother. You get to talking about what a jerk your spouse is and how you wish you weren't with them anymore. You rattle off a laundry list of reasons why you can't stand them. In isolation, none of the reasons seem too bad. Taken together, the thought of this person walking through the door at night sickens you to the point of contempt. And you haven't even gotten to the quality of your sex life — or lack of it.

Why Does Everyone Say January Is ‘Divorce Month,’ and What Does It Mean for You?

Posted by Elise Buie | Jan 05, 2021 | 0 Comments

With the new year comes resolutions, specific intentions to change our lives for the better. For some, that includes getting a divorce. In the U.S., divorce filings typically increase between 25 percent to 30 percent in January. It makes the concept of "Divorce Month" a recorded phenomenon and not just another theme to describe January on social media. But why the sudden rise in divorces?

A Christmas Story — Mine

Posted by Elise Buie | Dec 22, 2020 | 0 Comments

I'm thankful that my kids got most of what they wanted for Christmas from my ex and me growing up. The same went for my second husband's kids. And it wasn't because we went on a shopping spree to fill their wishlist to Santa. What we gave them didn't cost a dime. And that was the gift of choice.

Legal Competency: When Is It Too Late to Create a Power of Attorney?

Posted by Judy Nakashima Shoji | Dec 17, 2020 | 0 Comments

As an elder law attorney, I frequently advise adult children who suddenly realize that they must step in to help their aging parents. Perhaps mom is not making sound decisions regarding her medical care, or Dad is showing signs of early dementia. Unfortunately, many seniors are reluctant to plan for this possibility or even discuss it with their close family members. When families delay talking about these matters, the results can be stressful and costly. Failing to preplan can have serious consequences both while an elder is still alive and after they have died. Unfortunately, once a family realizes they urgently need legal documents to help an aging loved one, it's often too late.

Tips for Talking To Your Aging Parents About Estate Planning

Posted by Judy Nakashima Shoji | Dec 11, 2020 | 0 Comments

There is one guarantee in life that none of us can escape: We will all die someday. If we're lucky enough, we'll do this when we're old, slipping peacefully away in our sleep, but inevitably, it will happen to each of us. Unfortunately, too many of us pass away without leaving a will or other instructions to our loved ones to speak for us when we no longer can, and this can cause hardship and stress for friends and family at an already difficult time.

I’m Getting a Divorce. What If My Ex Won't Move Out of the Marital Home?

Posted by Elise Buie | Dec 08, 2020 | 0 Comments

It's the question Phil Collins posed in court last month after his ex-wife, Orianne Cevey, and her new husband, Thomas Bates, refused to vacate the singer's Miami Beach Mansion, estimated at 40 million dollars. Vanity Fair reported that although Collins holds the property in a company owned by him, Cevey claims she has an ownership interest. Taking legal matters into her hands, Cevey and her new hubby have denied her ex-husband access by changing the locks and alarm codes and otherwise blocking Collins and his representatives from entering.

Emergency Planning and Why a COVID-19 Emergency Packet Is So Important

Posted by Judy Nakashima Shoji | Dec 03, 2020 | 0 Comments

COVID-19 infections are surging here in Washington and across the U.S. Experts predict infections will continue to rise, and many more people will become ill and require hospitalization in the coming months. CNN states more than 60,000 American's will die from COVID-19 over the next few weeks. Therefore, it is crucial to protect yourself and prepare in advance if you become ill and unable to care for yourself. And the best way to do that is to put together a COVID-19 emergency packet as part of your estate plan.

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