Family and Parenting
The Importance of Family Dinners After Divorce
April 13, 2021
With the chaos typical during a divorce, it can be easy to let certain traditions fall through the cracks. One common tradition that often falls by the wayside is the family dinner. However, family dinners after divorce can be an important part of the recovery process for everyone, including your ex. Here are a few reasons why.
How Estate Planning Can Prevent Elder Abuse
April 1, 2021
Stanley, 73 years old, recently passed away. He never married or had any children. Stanley lived alone in his home and was self-sufficient until his health began to decline last year. Not wishing to burden his nieces and nephews, Stanley took it upon himself to hire a home health aide to come to his home and care for him. The pandemic restrictions prevented his niece, Cathy, with whom he had always had a close relationship, from visiting him. However, she called often. She even made an effort to see him but was only allowed window visits by the care worker and never provided the opportunity for in-person visits before his death. Cathy had no idea her uncle was being neglected and abused. To prevent a similar scenario from happening to you or someone you love, here's what you should know.
Estate Planning for a Single Parent
March 19, 2021
The percentage of children who live in a single-parent household has increased significantly. While estate planning for single parents is similar to estate planning for families with two parents, you should take special consideration and outline specific provisions in your estate plan if you're a single parent due to death, divorce, or life choice. If you're a single parent, estate planning should become a high priority.
7 Statements To Diffuse an Angry Ex
February 16, 2021
You'd be surprised at how what you say and how you say it can make or break a discussion. As a family and divorce lawyer, writer, communicator, and a once-divorced (I've since remarried) co-parenting mom myself, I know how the slightest alteration in my speech can produce a different outcome in a conversation. Those "alternative endings," in turn, can do a lot of damage by derailing my day, my week, and, most significantly, negatively impact my children's lives in a very profound and direct manner. That's why I'm careful about how I speak to my ex. And he's not even a bad guy.
You Have Kids. Should You Date Before Finalizing Your Divorce?
February 2, 2021
You're getting divorced, and it's the first time you've been single in years. You're thinking about starting to date but are wondering whether this is a good idea or not. You anticipate your divorce taking a while, and worry about putting your dating life on hold for months, even years. So how do you decide if now's the right time to dip your toe in the dating pool?
3 Questions To Ask Yourself Before Staying in a Bad Marriage for the Kids
January 13, 2021
You're at lunch with your friends. Or on the phone with your mother. You get to talking about what a jerk your spouse is and how you wish you weren't with them anymore. You rattle off a laundry list of reasons why you can't stand them. In isolation, none of the reasons seem too bad. Taken together, the thought of this person walking through the door at night sickens you to the point of contempt. And you haven't even gotten to the quality of your sex life — or lack of it.
A Christmas Story — Mine
December 22, 2020
I'm thankful that my kids got most of what they wanted for Christmas from my ex and me growing up. The same went for my second husband's kids. And it wasn't because we went on a shopping spree to fill their wishlist to Santa. What we gave them didn't cost a dime. And that was the gift of choice.
It’s Your First ‘Single’ Thanksgiving. Here’s How To Make It a Happy One for the Entire Family
November 24, 2020
When you're married, orchestrating and celebrating a major holiday like Thanksgiving can be challenging, and when you're first divorced, even more so. However, there's no reason why Thanksgiving needs to be sad following a divorce — for you or those around you. If you're up for it, you can take steps to make the experience more comfortable, perhaps even better than it was before. I know because I, too, was divorced and once in your shoes. Here are a few ideas.
Getting Remarried? Avoid These Estate-Planning Mistakes
November 20, 2020
With a rise in "gray divorces," it's only natural that remarriage has become more prevalent among seniors. However, they also tend to be lax about updating their estate planning. Here are some common pitfalls and how to avoid them.
Should You Keep the Marital Home in Your Divorce?
November 17, 2020
When it comes to the family home, you have numerous choices to weigh before deciding, each of which could affect you and your family for years to come. It will behoove you to remember the difference between a house and a home during this emotional transition. Your house is a place where you live. A home is any place with you living in it.