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Divorcing a Narcissist

Posted by Elise Buie | Jul 13, 2016 | 0 Comments

Divorce is hard. Everyone knows that.  However, it is exponentially more difficult to divorce a narcissist. Despite the universally excepted truth that all divorces are difficult, many people fail to consider the significant role that personality plays in the process.
When divorcing a narcissist, the phrase “power hungry” takes on an entirely new meaning. Narcissists are driven by their desire to control through manipulation and this desire is fueled by divorce. For a narcissist, acquiescing to anything without a power struggle represents a loss of control. One of the most frustrating things about divorcing a narcissist is the lack of accountability that person feels for their actions, or lack there of, especially regarding their children. In the narcissist's mind, he or she is the perfect parent. They believe their image is unjustly marred by their spouse's portrayal.  
Finally, and possibly most difficult of all for someone divorcing a narcissist, is the narcissist's inability to feel empathy. Divorce can be messy. It is undoubtedly emotional.  The narcissist may recognize the emotional chaos around them but will never accept any role in the creation of problems in the marriage, during the divorce and in the aftermath. Furthermore, the narcissist has only a superficial ability to empathize and often disregards the complex emotional situations at play during the divorce process because of their own inability to understand the emotive behaviors of their spouse or children. 

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Elise Buie

Passionate, creative, problem-solving attorney who crafts solutions rather than obstacles. Elise spends significant time educating her clients on healthy communication skills. Elise also ensures that her clients make informed decisions by understanding the future emotional and financial implications of their decisions. Your family's future is our first priority. Elise teaches her clients new skills to empower them in the future as they adjust to the new family structure. While divorce ends a marriage, it is the beginning of your new, often times, more authentic life. Elise will help you begin that new life with new skills to handle any future challenges.


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