Elise's “Must Read” Resources
For Married Couples Hoping to Stay Together
The Good Marriage by Judith Wallerstein & Sandra Blakesee (1996, Warner Books)
Boundaries in Marriage by Henry Cloaud and John Townsend (1999)
Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by Dennis Gottman (1999, Three Rivers Press)
The 5 Love Languages by Gary D. Chapman, Northfield Publishing 2010 Edition
For Couples in High Conflict Situations
Stop Walking On Eggshells by M.S.T. Mason
It's All Your Fault by Bill Eddy (2008, Janis Publications USA)
For Kids of Separating/Divorcing Parents
Mom's House; Dad's House: Making Two Homes for Your Child by Isolina Ricci (2006, Fireside)
Dinosaurs Divorce by Marc Brown and Laurie K. Brown, (1986) Age range: 3-10
Two Homes By Claire Masurel and Kady Macdonald Denton Young Alex's parents are divorced, and he spends time with each of them Age range: 0-3
It's Not Your Fault, Koko Bear By Vicki Lansky - Preschooler Koko Bear faces the troubling news that herparents are getting a divorce. Mama and Papa Bear compassionately listen to Koko's concerns and give her ample opportunity to express her feelings, while conveying the important message that the divorce is not her fault. Age range: 3-7
For Separating/Divorcing Parents
Co-Parenting and Divorce Post-Covid19 Will Never Look the Same: Avoid the Courts, Resolve the Thorniest Issues & Become “Co-CEO's” of Your Children by Elise Buie (2020)
Family-Centered Parenting Plan: Keeping Kids Central, Not Caught in the Middle, co-authored by Elise Buie and Karen Bonnell (2018, CreateSpace)
The Co-Parents' Handbook: Raising Well-Adjusted, Resilient, and Resourceful Kids in a Two-Home Family from Little Ones to Young Adults by Karen Bonnell (2014)
The Truth About Children and Divorce by Dr. Robert Emery (2004, Penguin)
Renegotiating Family Relationships by Dr. Robert Emery (1994, Guilford Press)
Helping Your Kids Cope with Divorce, the Sandcastle Way by M. Gary Neuman (1998, Random House)
The Good Divorce: Keeping Your Family Together When Your Marriage Comes Apart by Constance Ahrons (1998, Harper Press)
What About the Kids? Raising Your Children Before, During and After Divorce by Judith Wallerstein, PhD.And Sandra Blakesee (2003, Hyperion Press)
Collaborative Divorce: The Revolutionary Way to Restructure Your Family, Resolve Legal Issues and Move on With Your Life by Pauline Tesler and Peggy Thompson (2006, Regan Press)
Putting Children First, Proven Parenting Strategies for Helping Children Thrive Through Divorce by JoAnnePedro-Carroll
Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss what Matters Most by Douglas Stone
The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce: The 25 Year Landmark Study
By Judith S. Wallerstein, Julia M. Lewis, Sandra Blakeslee
No More Us: Navigating a Divorce or Separation You Didn't Want by Kristin Little LMHC
For Those Entering the Dating World
Get it Right This Time by Amy Schoen (2008)
He Is Just Not That Into You by Greg Behrendt and LizTuccillo (2004, Simon & Schuster)
Step Families
The Happy Stepmother by Rachelle Katz
Stepfamilies by James H. Bray and John Kelly
Keys to Successful Stepfathering by Carl E. Pickhardt
Stepmonster by Wednesday Martin
A Career Girl's Guide to Becoming a Stepmom by Jacquelyn B. Fletcher
The Stepfamily Handbook: Dating, Getting Serious, and Forming a "Blended Family" by Karen Bonnell and Patricia Papernow
Surviving and Thriving in Stepfamily Relationships by Karen Bonnell
Collaborative Divorce
Avoiding Litigation by Sherrie R. Abney
Beyond Winning by Robert H. Mnookin
Collaborative Divorce Handbook: Effectively Helping Divorcing Families Without Going to Court by Forrest S. Mosten
Collaborative Divorce: The Revolutionary New Way to Restructure Your Family, Resolve Legal Issues, and Move on with Your Life by Pauline Tesler and Peggy Thompson
Collaborative Practice: Deepening the Dialogue by Nancy J. Cameron
Collaborative Family Law by Richard W. Shields and Victoria Smith
Complete Guide to Mediation: The Cutting Approach to Family Law Practice by Forrest S. Mosten
Mediation Career Guide: A Strategic Approach to Building a Successful Practice by Forrest S. Mosten
Navigating Emotional Currents of Collaborative Divorce: A Guide to Enlightened Team Practice, with a Foreword by Pauline Tesler, Esquire by Kate Scharff and Lisa Herrick
The Collaborative Way to Divorce by Ron Ousky and Stuart Webb
Unbundling Legal Services: A Guide to Delivering Legal Services a la Carte by Forrest S. Mosten
The Intelligent Divorce by Dr. Mark Banschick
Developing a Parenting Plan
Using Child Development Research to Make Appropriate Custody and Access Decisions for Young Children by Joan B. Kelly and Michael E. Lamb
Developing Beneficial Parenting Plan Models for Children Following Separation and Divorce by Joan B. Kelly
Creating Effective Parenting Plans: A Developmental Approach for Lawyers and Divorce Professionals by John N. Hartson and Brenda J. Payne
The Co-Parents' Handbook: Raising Well-Adjusted, Resilient, and Resourceful Kids in a Two-Home Family from Little Ones to Young Adults by Karen Bonnell
Parallel Parenting for High Conflict Families by Philip M. Stahl
Family-Centered Parenting Planning by Karen Bonnell, MS, Co-Parent Coach, and Elise Buie JD, GAL
Other Divorce Articles
“The Success Principles of Divorce (Adapted From Jack Canfield)” by Elise Buie
Using Child Development Research to Make Appropriate Custody and Access Decisions for Young Children by Joan B. Kelly and Michael E. Lamb
Developing Beneficial Parenting Plan Models for Children Following Separation and Divorce by Joan B. Kelly
Parallel Parenting for High Conflict Families by Philip M. Stahl
“Civility Encourages Gentleness: Self-Care for Clients (and Attorneys)” by Elise Buie
“What Does Love Have to Do with It?” By Jerome H. Poliacoff
