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The magic of a mediator: why a neutral party may be the key to successful divorce

Posted by Elise Buie | May 10, 2017 | 0 Comments

Divorce is represented in the media and tabloids as unavoidably acrimonious and incredibly lengthy. If this sounds unappealing to you – try mediation.

The primary reason mediation is so successful is that you are engaging a neutral party (the mediator) in resolving conflict and facilitating communication. This party is able to make objective assessments and recommendations in order to reach mutual agreement between you and a soon to be ex spouse.

Mediation is often quicker than litigation and can spare a lot of unnecessary conflict and emotional distress. In a courtroom stand off where both sides have guns blazing it is hard to find middle ground because any concession feels like you are acquiescing to the enemy. Through mediation you can approach divorce with an entirely different mindset; rather than us vs. them, it's a collaborative process wherein you prioritize your interests in order to achieve the desired result instead of fighting over every detail. Mediation can be especially useful if you have children and want to avoid dragging them into a courtroom battle.

If you are the type of person who tries to minimize conflict and maximize results in your life, mediation could be the best choice for you.

About the Author

Elise Buie

Passionate, creative, problem-solving attorney who crafts solutions rather than obstacles. Elise spends significant time educating her clients on healthy communication skills. Elise also ensures that her clients make informed decisions by understanding the future emotional and financial implications of their decisions. Your family's future is our first priority. Elise teaches her clients new skills to empower them in the future as they adjust to the new family structure. While divorce ends a marriage, it is the beginning of your new, often times, more authentic life. Elise will help you begin that new life with new skills to handle any future challenges.


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