Lagniappe (aka Blog)


Tips for Divorce

Posted by Elise Buie | Jul 08, 2015 | 0 Comments

If people do get divorced, it will most likely be their first and only time going through it. One of the tasks of a good family law professional is to guide their client through the process. Understanding what options are available is important. Perhaps something like mediation would work better. Good family law professionals also steer their clients toward outside resources they can use to understand their feelings and make good decisions during this tough time.

An author of an upcoming book on how to handle going through the divorce has offered several tips on what to do to make your separation as amiable as possible:

1. Learn before you burn. Know your legal options. Know who can help you outside of the legal world too (e.g. psychologists)

2. Manage your expectations. Consult with a lawyer to understand the legal precedents for divorce in your state.

3. Plan ahead, and plan as if your spouse is planning ahead.

4. Stay clear with your attorney. Neither you nor your attorney should hide any facts about the case or the relationship, even if they are embarrassing. Be honest.

5. Mind your money. Take stock of your personal finances. Understand your attorney's fees.

6. Don't focus on now, focus on five years from now. This will make your decisions more rational.

7. Take the high road. The judge isn't going to be swayed by emotion. Don't say anything that can be used against you, including on social media.

8. Start with mediation, but don't let a mediator push you into an immediate settlement. Run it by a lawyer.

For more information on these tips, read the full article at the Huffington Post. For more information about how we can help you with your family law questions, call Elise Buie Family Law Group, PLLC. We serve the state of Washington.

About the Author

Elise Buie

Passionate, creative, problem-solving attorney who crafts solutions rather than obstacles. Elise spends significant time educating her clients on healthy communication skills. Elise also ensures that her clients make informed decisions by understanding the future emotional and financial implications of their decisions. Your family's future is our first priority. Elise teaches her clients new skills to empower them in the future as they adjust to the new family structure. While divorce ends a marriage, it is the beginning of your new, often times, more authentic life. Elise will help you begin that new life with new skills to handle any future challenges.


There are no comments for this post. Be the first and Add your Comment below.

Leave a Comment

Areas We Serve

At Elise Buie Family Law Group, PLLC, we represent clients from Seattle and Bellevue, Washington, and the surrounding region, including all of King County and the cities of Redmond, Kirkland, Bellevue, Edmonds, Issaquah, Kenmore, Kent, Federal Way, Shoreline, Des Moines, Bainbridge Island, Vashon, Auburn, Renton and Puyallup. We love working with clients from Seattle's unique, eclectic neighborhoods: West Seattle, Fremont, Ballard, Madrona, Queen Anne, Greenwood, Ravenna, Maple Leaf, Wedgewood, View Ridge, Laurelhurst, Windermere, Madison Park, Magnolia, South Lake Union, Capitol Hill, Broadmoor, Phinney Ridge, Crown Hill, Yarrow Point and Mercer Island.

Contact Us

Call us at (206) 926-9848

We'll be happy to set up an initial consult. Thank you for looking around our site. We look forward to serving you.

We welcome your email, but please understand that if you are not already a client of Elise Buie Family Law Group, PLLC, we cannot represent you until we confirm that representing you would not create a conflict of interest. Please do not include any confidential information until we verify that our office is in a position to represent you and our engagement is confirmed in writing. Prior to that time, there is no legal representation and thus no attorney-client confidentiality.

Thank you.

Elise Buie Family Law Group


Elise Buie Family Law Group PLLC
1001 Fourth Avenue, 44th Floor   Seattle, WA 98154