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What is your Drunk Uncle in the Back Seat? Personality Types and So Much More.......

Posted by Elise Buie | Apr 18, 2016 | 0 Comments

I read a great book recently entitled "Live Your Life from the Front Seat" about personality types using the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI).  It has inspired me to follow up with more information and meet with the author in coaching sessions. (I'll let you know how those go).....Anyway, the book is all about figuring out your personality type so that you can "live your life in the front seat" of your car rather than as your "drunk uncle in the back seat" or your "baby in the back seat."  Without going into all of the details of the book (you should read it as it is an easy read with great font, too). It reminded me how important it is for married couples and divorcing couples to truly understand both themselves and their partner (or ex partner) in order to "live life in the front seat."  For example, J's and P's (Judging/Perceiving) as parents can pose interesting challenges. As Jessica Butts states "A parent who is a P may have to keep some sort of schedule, but they are at their best when they are simply playing and being spontaneous with their kids.  And a J parent has to learn to go with the flow at times, but they are at their best when they can keep a clear schedule and keep on track."  Understanding these differences can help immensely when crafting a parenting plan or a residential schedule.  Also understanding the dynamics between child and parent is critical to understanding when they are in the front seat or when they are riding alongside their dangerous drunk uncle.  Understanding each other

Read the book, find out if you are an INTJ (very rare for a female) or an INFP (similarly rare for a male) or if you are like me (and the author) an ENFJ.........

A great quote contained in the book "Life's a bitch.  You've got to go out and kick ass" by Maya Angelou sums up why understanding personality types is so important.  In order to "kick ass" you have to be in the front seat; neither your drunk uncle nor your baby can kick ass. 

Happy personality typing.......

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Elise Buie

Passionate, creative, problem-solving attorney who crafts solutions rather than obstacles. Elise spends significant time educating her clients on healthy communication skills. Elise also ensures that her clients make informed decisions by understanding the future emotional and financial implications of their decisions. Your family's future is our first priority. Elise teaches her clients new skills to empower them in the future as they adjust to the new family structure. While divorce ends a marriage, it is the beginning of your new, often times, more authentic life. Elise will help you begin that new life with new skills to handle any future challenges.


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